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A Hotel Window Is the Safest Place to Feel Seen

If the idea of being seen during sex has ever pulled at you and then frightened you, here is the thing most people never get told: the safest place in the world to feel it is a hig…

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Water Isn't Slicker — and Other Things a Hotel Room Is Actually For

A hotel room is not just a different place to run the same sex. The room itself is full of conditions a bedroom does not have — a cleared counter, a mirror in the wrong-right place…

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You Don't Need a Public Place to Feel the Danger

The thrill people chase in risky places is almost never the risk itself. It is the feeling of risk — the racing heart, the narrowed attention, the body strung tight because somethi…

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Going Down to His Foot Doesn't Lower You

Picture him on his back, and picture yourself moving down past all the parts you're supposed to stop at, all the way to his foot. Most women never go there, and the ones who think …

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Opening Yourself Is an Invitation, Not a Surrender

# Opening Yourself Is an Invitation, Not a SurrenderIf parting yourself for a partner — opening your outer labia with your own hands, bringing him to the entrance — has ever felt l…

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The Last Thirty Seconds Your Voice Still Reaches Him

# The Last Thirty Seconds Your Voice Still Reaches HimThere is a short window — roughly the thirty seconds after foreplay ends and before penetration begins — when you can still sa…

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A Voice in Bed: How to Guide, Receive, and Refuse Without Killing the Mood

# A Voice in Bed: How to Guide, Receive, and Refuse Without Killing the MoodIf you mostly stay quiet during sex — steering with your hips, hoping he lands on the right thing, not w…

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