This guide explains how to use Lason Flame Ⅳ, a vibrator with three separate motors: why turning them all on at once often feels like less, and how to build them up one at a time.
Three motors, three places
Flame Ⅳ has three motors, and each one sits at a different place on your body.
- The tip goes deepest inside and vibrates.
- The middle of the shaft sits against the front wall of your vagina, the side toward your belly. This motor does not buzz. It taps: it pushes into the wall and lets go, over and over.
- The outside pad rests on your vulva, over your clitoris and the skin just above your urethral opening, and vibrates.
You can set the strength of each one separately, or switch any of them off.
Why all three at once can feel like less
It seems logical that three motors at full strength would feel three times as good. It does not work that way. The signals from inside and outside do not simply add up. When all three start at once, it is hard to tell which one is doing anything, the strongest one can drown out the others, and sensitive places can go numb before your body has caught up.
What tends to work better is to lead with one and layer the others:
- On the lowest settings, try each motor on its own and notice which one your body answers to right now. It can be a different one on different days.
- Make that one a little stronger. Leave the others off or low.
- When that feeling is well under way, bring in a second one and notice whether it adds to the first or pulls your attention away. If it pulls away, turn it back down.
Any combination is fine: strong inside and soft outside, only the outside pad, only the tapping. Follow what your body is answering to, not the number of motors.
Start with the outside pad
Before you put it in, you can hold the outside pad against your vulva on its own, on a low setting. Being wet is a reflex and can happen early. Being ready for something inside is different: for most women, the inner walls fill with blood, feel smoother and softer, and open. When you feel swollen and soft, add water-based lube and let it in slowly. If it feels like pushing, give it more time outside.
The front wall usually feels better once your body has opened this way. Before that, touch there is more likely to feel like an urge to pee than like pleasure.
What the tapping does
The front wall of the vagina, just inside the entrance on the side toward your belly, has a patch of slightly rougher skin. That is what is usually called the G-spot area. Behind it lie the urethra and the spongy tissue around it, close to the inner parts of the clitoris. When fingers stimulate this wall, they often curl upward in a come-here motion: press, release, press again. The middle motor makes a movement like that. It pushes the wall in and lets it go, which feels different from the fine, steady buzz of a vibrator.
On the front wall, pressure, rubbing and the two together all work. The tapping gives you rhythmic pressure. A good thing to try is adding rubbing to it: hold the handle and move it in small movements, so the shaft rubs over the slightly rougher patch of skin there. Then keep whatever feels best to you. More: Touching the front wall: pressure, rubbing, or both. What you feel there also differs: deep fullness, an urge to pee, not much at all, or a mild ache. If the tapping feels like nothing, change the angle a little by tilting the handle, or try a different tapping pattern.
The urge to pee
With the tapping on the front wall, you may feel a sudden urge to pee. It is a normal mixed signal from the tissue around the urethra and the clitoris, not a full bladder, and it tends to come and go. If it is uncomfortable or feels like a real need to go, stop and go. More: the urge to pee during sex.
The tip
The tip reaches further inside than the other two motors. Some women like a deep, spread-out vibration there, especially once they are very aroused. Others notice little from it. There is also a different place, high on the front wall and much deeper inside, that some women find very sensitive. Reaching it precisely is hard, and fingers usually do it better than any toy. Treat the tip as one more layer you can add, not as a target you have to hit.
When it fades
If the feeling fades partway through, your body has probably got used to a sensation that has not changed for a while. Before turning it up, try a change: switch from vibration to tapping or back, change the pattern, or switch one motor off for a minute. Turning it up when things feel numb usually makes them duller. More: When it goes numb: pause, don't turn it up. If numbness, pain or swelling lasts after you stop, stop using the toy and talk to a doctor.
Worn, and with a partner
You can wear Flame Ⅳ inside your underwear, with the pad pressed against your vulva, and leave your hands free. With the remote version, your partner can hold the remote and set the pace. Not knowing what comes next is a different kind of stimulation, and it works best with someone you actually want to be led by, who pays attention to how you react. The toy is fairly large and not silent, so it suits home rather than going out.
With a partner, you can use it in stages. Wear it during foreplay while they control it and you warm up. When you are swollen and soft, take it out for sex. If either of you needs a pause, you can put it back in and carry on.
It cannot be used during penetrative sex, because it takes up the same space inside.
Who it suits
Flame Ⅳ suits you if you have used a toy or two before, have some sense of how the front wall and the inside of your vagina feel for you, and want to stimulate several places at once and control each one.
If this is your first toy, three motors can be a lot to sort out at the same time. You can still use it, but plan to start with only the outside pad. It is also not the right choice if quiet matters most to you, if you want something discreet to wear outside, or if you want a toy to use during sex.
Safety and care
More: lube and silicone, what water ratings mean, when to check with a doctor.
- Parts of the toy are hard plastic. Use plenty of water-based lube, go in slowly, and stop if anything hurts.
- Use a water-based lubricant. Silicone-based lube can damage silicone toys over time.
- It is rated IPX7, and the manufacturer says it can be used in the bath or shower. Avoid very hot water. Water washes lube away, so add more. Dry it before you charge it.
- Wash it with warm water and mild soap after each use, including where the pad joins the shaft.
- It is for vaginal and external use. It is not for anal use: it has no flared base made to stop it from going all the way in.
- If you use it on your partner as well, wash it before it goes back inside you.
- If you are pregnant, recovering from pelvic surgery, or have an infection or broken skin, talk to a doctor before using an internal toy.
What to take away
Flame Ⅳ has three motors, but more at once is not automatically more. Start with the outside pad, go inside once your body has opened, find the one motor your body answers to, and add the others one at a time. When the feeling fades, change what the motors are doing before you turn them up.