For many women, adding clitoral stimulation during penetration helps more than penetration alone. You can use your own hand, a partner's hand, or a small vibrator held between your bodies.
The two feelings often differ: for many women, outside feels sharper and quicker, and inside heavier and slower, though they can also blend or overlap. They do not simply add up, and with something inside, orgasm can take longer. That is a change in timing, not a sign that something is wrong. If one more thing at once feels distracting, use one at a time.
Positions matter: from behind usually gives the clitoris little on its own, so reaching around with a hand or toy makes the difference.
Stop if anything hurts, stings or goes numb. If it lasts, see Toys and your health: when to check with a doctor.